CVA - Not sure I have figured anything out?

[Heimlich]

I hate not being able to sleep before driving. Anyone, one thought for you, CVA. Visitation and custody aren't just dictated by the W. Figure out what you would like and go for it. With four kids, you're going to have to split responsibilities for taking them places as they get older and involved in activities. You'll have ample opportunities to see them.

I only saw my dad every other weekend and we're still close. Thing is, when you live with one of the parents, that parent gets all of the day to day, just living stuff -- which, yeah, is good. With a weekend, you get concentrated time together. It adds up.

Plus, NA brings up a good point. As a businessman, you know nothing in life gets done without planning and scheduling. Start scheduling one night a week with each kid to spend alone time. Every Tuesday night is kid night and take them out in turn. Or every other week. Or whatever works. Thing is, plan for it so that it'll happen.

And, not all your fault. Your W, like mine, CHOOSES not to share her feelings with you. That's their failing, not ours. What's the saying, you can't make chicken salad with chicken feathers (or fuzz in our cases).

BD