ScottyMack, thank you for your kind words. I sure hope that your W is getting her act together. I must tell you that it sure did not come overnight for me. It was a very hard decision to make b/c I did not have any yearning for my H at all. It was more of what I knew I had to do morally right and hope that the "feelings" toward my H would follow. We are back to where we were before OM, etc. started up in my life, but we need to be better than that.
I do think your W showing the Pictures may have been a positive sign. Don't read too much into it and set yourself up for disappointment. Some days I would think I could make a go of my M and I would resolve to try harder, but then in a matter of hours all of that would fall through and I would be right back where I was. I don't say that trying to discourage you, only to keep you realisic. Hopefully, if she is thinking that she will do away with the OM and forget the D and stay in the M....then she is making positive baby steps. On the other hand, she may just have been in a friendlier mood that day. You know, if she has fully made up her mind to D you, then she may think that there is nothing that is going to stop her and that she is showing you she can be "friends" and still get D. So.....stay "real" friend.....I know it hurts like hell, but don't get your hopes up there too high. That is one of the things I've noticed about all LBS....they cling to every word and every little action, hoping it is a "sign" that everything is going to be okay. a lot of times, it doesn't mean anything, sweetie, so just hang in there. Give God time to work on her, believe me....He can---if she will listen to Him and do what she needs to do to fix her heart right with Him. I bet every time she goes to church, it just eats her insides up. It did me.
So, don't give up. Keep talking to us.
Take care.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
