I have to be real honest and say that I didn't see IC's response as "jumping" on Husband or anything. It's kind of like emails, sometimes they can be taken the wrong way b/c you can't hear the tone or inflection in someone's voice.

I felt IC was just saying that Husband's W obviously has a lot of issues and until those are resolved, S is not an issue.

Hope IC responds to you.

Me: 38
H: 35
S4, S5, S10
Bomb 01/07
Wanted D - nothing would change his mind
Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb
Piecing 04/07
Deployed for a year 05/07
Still Piecing 2010
M 11 yrs 05/10