neph your friend is right, you can be arrested, but the cops would have to be *really* bored on a night to do it. Stay home, no calls, no emails, no nothing. Your H is already regretting what he did. If what you have posted is all you have done (I didn't know about any voice mails), then they are being ridiculous. OW is LOVING the fact that your H is siding with her, so stop letting her have the control. Show everyone you are above this mess, and leave everyone alone.
So sorry neph, you did not need this, but its happened and you can handle it.
