Cheers for the support. Yes I have grown some and will not take crap anymore. Shoe is on other foot now. Difficult to back off, as the love is still there, but I am not pressuring her at the mo.
As to the marathon........waiting for the entry papers. Going to enter us both to run for a Cancer charity, which is close to her heart as she lost her mum to it 5 years ago, so it will show I care.