She of course chastised me for saying anything to the kids. Yes I shouldnt have and I make no excuses.
Oh gosh, I know you didn't feel like you could talk to W. CVA, I'm so sorry. How did the talk with the kids go?
Originally Posted By: CVA
She then goes on to say that she has heard "horror" stories about the financial side and the money did not come from our account (assume it was from a friend for family).
I know you feel like she should know you better, CVA, and she should. But she's scared sh*tless right now. You've always taken care of everything, you're a fantastic provider for your family, and she's just scared. No one ever acted well from that place.
Originally Posted By: CVA
I told her that I was disappointed that she felt I would do anything other than what was best for her and the kids.
Good for you. She's refused to talk to you forever, and this needed to be said.
Originally Posted By: CVA
She said she was protecting herself and was advised to do so.
Again, I've heard this talk, and it's frightening. I'm sure she's imagining off-shore accounts, support battles, and probably worse.
Originally Posted By: CVA
I did my share of attacking her claims (whatever they were I had a 180 respone, thanks for pointing that out Nomo).
I'm not totally clear on what you mean by this, but I think you mean your attacking was a 180---no more calm CVA.
Originally Posted By: CVA
told her I wanted us to go see someone so we could actually talk about things in person and that I realized I have no ability to fill the voids she opens with anything other than attacking / anger / controlling statements so it would benefit our R and thus the kids going forward.
This makes perfect sense, good for you. I'm pretty sure she's intimidated, so talking with a neutral third party is a fantastic suggestion. How did she respond?
Originally Posted By: CVA
So, so much for 8 mos to the day of wanting something to survive that was obviously dead.
That may be true. My friend, that thing you wanted to survive was dead long ago. The question---for much, much later---is, do you want something new with her?
