Out of the blue H called today. Been 8 wks since he put the D on hold and the only conversations have been about settlement mostly alimony. No fighting or arguing we jut talk.
Well yesterday I sent an email for the first time in wks and asked him the details of d going away with him this wkend for I to want to take advantage of her not being here (and me being responsible all the time) to go away.
I also told him my Uncle is still in the ICU on 16 days now and my mom is most likely going to start asking to go up and I need him to pull on d's reins if I go for she is juggling 2-3 boys right now.
he responded ... told me when d would be with him and told me he would keep tabs on her let him know.
that is like a huge sentence coming from him for I asked months ago for him to do this and he ignored me.
so then I got stupid and sent him an awesome halloween ecard that was an act from Macbeth with a witches spell.
he was at work and got it last night and replied .... thanks
well today he calls--- I was outside working in yard and he left msg. Hi this is (butthead) he actually said who he was like I would not know?? He always says.. hi its me..
so he sounded really nervous.. hestitated stumbled over his words like. said "i will try to call you on your cell phone" " thanks for the halloween card on email pause... thankyou bye"
On my cell he was in the OR there was lots of noise like someone dumped a tray on the floor. He said he had his earning statements and the letter of things from the house and was giving them to s tonight if he comes to work. "i will txt or email you later" bye
ok... not sure what is up here...
Do I ignore him?? let him try to call me again and answer?
I guess what I am trying to say is if he is attempting to call me to tell me that he has the paperwork that is odd for he would just send it home with s in an envelope like he does with the ck every month. S works at the hospital that H does.
cowards way out to not bring it to me in person is how I feel and I want to call him on it and make him bring it to me..
He has been in total withdrawal from me for 4 months now. No contact other than 4-5 times. less than 5 min a couple times when he picked up kids.
Part of me wants to think I sent the card and he is upset that I am pursueing him and that is why he is now getting me the paperwork after 8 wks. BUT?? would he tell me thank you for the card in an email? and again on the phone? is this sort of reaching out.??
I am trying hard not to read into this... going to go sit on the dock collect my senses back... this took me by surprise but oddly.. and some may think I am weird. I had this weird thought about him hit me this afternoon when I was raking. Had not had that happen in a long long time.
See I can go with out dwelling on him or wondering about him so when he calls it hits hard.
any suggestions ? I was having a great day and well still will for it is halloween and have to give out candy and look my best should he show up.
thanks hb2
m24 yrs h 50 me 47 s 21 s 17 left 5-30-06, and 12-4-06 still gone.............
HB2 calm down breathe.....he poked out and you spooked him.....as far as any S or D issues...its his job to contact you...the whole thing is his job. I would be still and learn from this experience. man it took me sooo long to remember to keep my yap shut. we ALL backslide....MLCers have bad memory so just be still
Me 53 H 51 OW 25 Bomb may 06 left june 8/ 06 ILYBNILWY (twice!) 7/6/07 H wants to come home 7/21/07 H comes home 7/07 -7/08 long haul letting go of OW now piecing in earnest
I am ok... kids are dressed for halloween... ok so they are way to old to trick or treat but they still love the holiday
I had dinner, took a hot shower and got myself back on track
N2M not sure how I spooked him for I have not spoken to him.??? I sent the email it was totally general about d and me going away with my mom. the card was simple nice and all I put was... that this was interesting and you could quiz your residents...
it was the witches chant from macbeth by shakespeare... I didn't know that was where it came from.
so he called s tonight heard him telling about his trip and I didn't listen I went on about my stuff. s was away for 5 days in vegas.
so far not txt from him and no email.
just holding on for the ride to go out of control again....:? or is he trying to reach out and see where I am?
In the last 8 wks I have not said to him point blank .. "i do not want a D." can I do this?
should I do this.
part of me sometimes wonders if he thinks that I do want a D that is why I am not arguing or fighting him about it.
oh well time will tell....
maybe should have my tarot cards read tonight since it is halloween??????
m24 yrs h 50 me 47 s 21 s 17 left 5-30-06, and 12-4-06 still gone.............
the card may have spooked him or he may have spooked himself......
Me 53 H 51 OW 25 Bomb may 06 left june 8/ 06 ILYBNILWY (twice!) 7/6/07 H wants to come home 7/21/07 H comes home 7/07 -7/08 long haul letting go of OW now piecing in earnest
I am wondering if he is really in mlc or he is just a want to be not married..
he just called told me he has the paperwork and then listened to me tell about my uncle in the ICU and what ever then said he sent an email with the alimony amts. I told him it was unacceptable and he asked why and I told him that there is a formula and I know what a judge would give me and that he has traveled in the last yr with her and is having an affair and committing adultery
he told me.... that has nothing to do with it.
I said.. what? it has everything to do with it you chose a different life and think that you can just leave and do that?
he said.. yes it was unbearable I could not live with you and I had to leave.
I had to go for trick or treater where at the door... so then I called him back. He told me he just got a call his brother was in a car accident. BUT he was still able to continue to explain to me why he can't pay the amt of alimony I want... wait... it is what the court will give me?? so I thought that is what my L said
anyway... he is being a twit and well... good riddance is all I want to say right now. I can't be bothered if he has no feelings
I told him that we needed to be nice to each other and respect each other and he did say that we needed to do that. ok... so when is he going to start?
not sure what is up with him tonight but I do know a yr ago he went through the same thing on the same week... yes indeed folks on Oct 30th he went to his L and had her mail separation papers that I got in the mail on the 4th of nov. when I called him to talk about it he was mad and evil and yelled at me like he had never done before. a wk later he did not show for the mediation mtg. and a wk after that he showed up at the house like nothing was wrong and a wk later he wanted to come home and did for 8 days.
so who know maybe the evil spirits are in him tonight.
I have so much to do tonight I don't have time for this. need to figure out how to move my address book from outlook express to this email on my new computer. can't find the cd for the printer to install it.. what else it new.. !!
life just goes on.... I just don't get why he would tell me thanks for the ecard in an email and then again on the phone and then turn into evil person.
guess it has been a long time since I have dealt with him ... need a refresher course !!
m24 yrs h 50 me 47 s 21 s 17 left 5-30-06, and 12-4-06 still gone.............
So interesting..... H is taking another vacation day next week.....
and he just can't work that hard to pay me alimony...
well if he tried to work.... he wouldn't have a problem paying.
It is the 2nd of Nov and no ck for this month.... this is not good. He has been as late as the 7th so will not say a word to him yet. yet last month he was early... oh forgot he was going out of town... amazing though he gave it to me early.
oh well the weekend... time to have fun !!! well not tonight... streets are flooded ruined my plans....boo
40 mph winds and lots of water from the huge tides. 12-14 ft waves at the beach might go out there tomorrow to take pictures.
hurricane off the coast... no rain here though.
so ... movies and popcorn tonight..
m24 yrs h 50 me 47 s 21 s 17 left 5-30-06, and 12-4-06 still gone.............
