I'm scared, though, that once he finds a place and gets moved there that he will feel excited about it & that he'll interpret his feelings of excitement to mean he should leave me for good. I know when I moved I sortof felt like that, so I am worried.
Any advice is appreciated, he moves late Nov. and I know if he's excited it will be hard for me (I experience it as further rejection, and worry he will meet someone else b/c of the area he's moving to has lots of single people our age).
What you are doing here is worrying about things that may or may not happen and it is scaring you and...look, worry sets up a cycle, it forms a circle, and it keeps going around and around.
It is one of the hardest things not to do, it is sooo damn hard to accept a come what may attitude, but it is vital.
Do you worry about getting into a car crash on the way home? I mean it could happen. And yeah...I put that thought in your head...but you aren't going to obsess about it.
Doormat - (him)- "Hey thanks for dinner I'm going to the OW's house now, can you do my laundry before I get back tomorrow?"
DB - (you) (unsaid)- "I'll be here for as long as I am able while you go through this."
Extreme, but a decent example.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
