You obviously don't want a D, and don't want it to be over, so why would you tell her that? Doesn't make any sense. If you read DB you'll remember that there is not a whole lot of certainty in what they say - Many of us have WAWs who change their needs from one day to the next. Last Friday my W told me that she never wanted anything to do with me, that she hated me and told me 'f-you'. Monday she told me that she loved me, she was proud of me for everything I had done recently and that I was a great father to our D. Just because it's wounded, you don't have to be the person to shoot it in the head.
Saying "I know you want the D..." sounds like a doormat. Tell her you need some time to adjust, you need some time to prepare and get yourself ready for the D. Don't encourage it, but don't stall it.
Okay, Im lost. Everyone told me to say my speech "I’m still working on getting to the place where you are right now. I’m going to need some time to digest all of this. I’ve though it over. You know this isn’t what I want, but I want you to be happy even if it is without me, so I’ll sign the papers. I’m sorry that things came to this and I wish it could have been different. I am not going to say that I will always love you because I don’t know if I will after what has happened"
I do not want a D and I dont want it to be over. I know that after I say whats above she will take it as I am ready to sign now. I told her that I am not ready to sign and she said, word for word, "I do not know how much Time I can give you. I want out and I will take this court if I have to!" So should I still tell her what I plan on telling her above or should I add something like I do not encourage this but I will not stand in your way??
