Reading this stuff will more than ever convince her that you are hanging desperately on to her. She'll think it's a good idea to put you out of your misery. Me
Originally Posted By: Gone Dancin'
In addition, she may come to this site, find your thread and your posts -- do you think this would be a good thing or not? If anything, my thoughts are that she would see all of your hard work her as desparation and manipulation (in a negative way) of her feelings. She would see your attempts at change, 180s, etc, as artificial, and therefore have a less likely chance at seeing your changes as genuine at ANY point in the future. Sure, we all see our efforts and desire to be here as proof of our committment and undying love for our W/H, but they probably wouldn't see it the same way.
JM makes an excellent point too. Please consider the potential damage you could do by telling her. GD
I agree with both of you. Sharing this information is a very bad idea and I dont know why I even thought about it. Maybe I'm just starting to realize that my M and my R with my W is over and maybe I just need to concentrate on me right now and make me happy.
Originally Posted By: BritInOH
Who said you are over after you talk? Don't set an expectation, either that something positive will happen, or that it's the end of everything.
She probably couldn't care less if you are spending time here, or if you go out and buy a bookstore full of self-help books related to relationships or marriage.
Follow the DB rules - They work. I can post the list again if you like.
She will say it is over after our talk and that is basically what I am telling her, am I not? Im not trying to set an expectation, either positive or negative. I think I am realizing that she wants the D and there is nothing I can do to stop that. I know that she could care less if I was on here or not.
