Nikki: The book she is reading, I believe goes into the issue of how actions and choices may "show disrespect", even if none was intended at the time of the action or choice.
I can quite easily believe that no disrespect was intended by her, in picking the name. I am only saying that choices like that, do "show disrespect" to her husband and her marriage, whether she intended them to or not.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D. Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M. 3 wonderful sons caught in the middle