Don't get yourself figure-eighted around your axle and H's axle with that MLC stuff. FWIW, I don't think that model is very helpful for very many people and it can take you to a place that is pretty condescending/invalidating toward H and keep you stuck there.
Sex -- I can't even believe you are having unprotected sex. Cannot even believe it. Stop it. Go to the doctor. Get tested. Jeez. If you don't like sex with condoms, then don't have it, but don't have unprotected sex either. BTW, condoms will not protect you against herpes.
Great news on the legal front. I'm so happy you are getting empowered here, great job!
How about you go away for the weekend again? Pack a bag, hop in the car, have an adventure, and leave your lingerie drawer open and obviously pawed through looking for stuff. If money is a concern, trust me, you can have an equally wonderful time at a hostel as at a pricey hotel.
