In addition, she may come to this site, find your thread and your posts -- do you think this would be a good thing or not? If anything, my thoughts are that she would see all of your hard work her as desparation and manipulation (in a negative way) of her feelings. She would see your attempts at change, 180s, etc, as artificial, and therefore have a less likely chance at seeing your changes as genuine at ANY point in the future. Sure, we all see our efforts and desire to be here as proof of our committment and undying love for our W/H, but they probably wouldn't see it the same way.
JM makes an excellent point too. Please consider the potential damage you could do by telling her.
