Hi Joan, I haven't read all of your thread, but I see what you mean about our stories being similar. Sounds like communication in both of our Ms shut down years ago. I may have missed it, but when did your son start seeing a C. I have talked to both of our DDs, but neither wants to go. D9 isn't taking it as hard as D15. I have found out that both have told one friend that they thought would understand. They want to keep it a secret right now.
I understand you wanted responses from others. I have found this to be my sounding board now. It is great to have a place to get things off your chest. Notice that a lot more people read your thread than post, so at least you know someone is listening and thinking about you.