H has left have I Done the right thing

[Evie]

A - thanks for making me see thinks clearer. I realise it maybe baby steps forward now. To be honest I like to talk to him, it keeps the connection as you said.

I had sent H a text last night thanking him for taking boys and D2 to the cinema earlier in the evening, that they had been looking forward to it all week and that he was a brilliant dad. I had a reply from him which said i was a fab mom and he always wanted to be part of the d's lifes that he loved them but he did feel differently towards them than he did towards our boys, he was sorry, he couldn't explain it.

I texted back and said he mustn't beat himself up about it, it was normal, his blood is in the boys the bond is bound to be deeper and stronger. I said the girls loved him very much and we have always appreciated his love and support and that they were a credit to us both and that I couldn't have done it without him, that we have the same values etc.

He said he was very proud of them and glad they were his step daughters and he would always try and include them in things he did. I don't know what he is trying to say, I hope they are not the main reason for our seperation. It sounds like he is looking into the future and the girls and I are not part of it. I know he feels he has been taken advantage of by my xh, but why should i be penalised????

He called again today to tell me he had put a curtain pole up for me. I thanked him loads and said how much i appreciated it. I'll call him later tonight, good excuse to as the boys are with him.

Maybe we're not moving forward to piecing as that is months off if at all, but at least I keep a connection?? I asked him about his place today and he seemed pleased to talk about it and he told me that the landlady had added a table and chairs and a cooker ring (previously only had a microwave). It is H's birthday on the 12th so I have framed a picture of the boys for him to hang on his wall.

I would like him to have luch on a Sunday with us, last week I said I had plenty and he was more than welcome to stay, which he did. Do i continue in this vain or leave it for this week?

Hope you have agreat w/end.

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