no contact......how do you survive.....

[Jeanette1120]

One of the big tradgedies of this journey is the having to witeness the spouse crash. There is nothing you can do about it, you can only sit there and watch them.

You can however, protect yourself. Just because you protect yourself does not mean that you do not want your marriage restored. It's an act of survival. If you can survive without involving legal seperation then you would be able to wait it out.

It seems to me from what you described that your H is now letting the OW interfere with his work. This is not good. When she is done with him she will just toss him out. Perhaps protecting yourself will also be a way of protecting him??

Just a thought.

Hugs

Jeanette