Here's an excerpt from one of the documents I got from the women's infedelity website. The document is essentially a dialog between a counselor and woman who has been cheating:
So this where you are now...at this point you have two options. The first option is that
you can keep doing what you are doing until your husband meets someone else at which
time I can almost guarantee that you will want him back. In fact, you will probably start
pining for him like you've been pining for your lover. You will probably also experience
a tremendous amount of self-hatred because you will realize that you have brought all of
this on yourself. However, if at any point your husband falls for your pleas to reconcile,
you will most likely lose interest in him immediately and start pining for your lover once
again.
Do you really think that will happen?
Yes, it's all very predictable. You obviously believe that too, otherwise you wouldn't be
treating your husband so cruelly and causing him so much pain. You've obviously
realized that through all of this you've been completely in control of him. His fear of
losing you has allowed you to manipulate him at every turn. However, what you've
failed to realize is that your husband has that same potential to control you because you
are both in limbo now.
Your indecision has led him into a state of indecision. Limbo is an unconscious state.
When people are in limbo they believe they have no control over their feelings which is
why their feelings can be so easily manipulated. This is why so many women who have
zero interest in their husbands miraculously want their husbands back when they begin to
move on and/or meet someone else. Like a child, they declare "that's mine" because they
don't want anyone else to play with their toy even though they have no interest in playing
