Okay... I wanted to start a new topic. Since I'm new here, I hope I'm not stepping on any toes, or seem like I want this to be all about me. So, in advance, I apologize if it's coming across like that.
NO apologies necessary. We are all here getting loads of help and are very willing to provide guidance and advice.
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I'm just so confused. Then last night at dinner, I just couldn't eat. Kids were out for a few minutes. W asked if I was talking to someone, as I had mentioned I wanted to for my own sake. I said yes. She asked if I had to pay for it. I just changed the subject, as my coach seemed as though I shouldn't let on that I'm taking this approach.
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But I'm just soooo confused. When do you draw the line? Do I show her some sort of contact? She initiated the kiss goodbye this morning. Just a peck. But I stopped the hello I'm home from work kiss. Does this become distancing yourself? I'm just confused and feel like I want answers, but I'm taking up too much of all of your time.
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If anyone knows what I'm feeling let me know. Since I found out about the OM... she said it's off. But they see each other at work. That makes me so nervous. She said it was just a one time thing, but thinks she has feelings for him, but it's done.
Unfortunately, we are all feeling the same confusing feelings. The more you read these threads, the more you'll realize just how similar most of these situations are.
It sounds like you are doing a good job in following the coaches' advice. Just keep doing what your doing. I know its hard, but let her make moves. As difficult as it seems, keeping your distance works.
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I wanted to also bring up possibly attending Retrouvaille - a spiritual marriage counseling session. But not sure when or if... I know it's only been a day... I'm just confused... and don't want to f anything up.
Thanks so much for your time... anyone willing to read ALL of this.... LOL!!
Haven't done Retro yet, but would love to. Have heard lots of great feedback on it. Understand that it is more than just one weekend. There are several follow up sessions that are involved. Not sure if we are at the right point just now. I know there is one coming up in my area for January. I guess I'll see where we are at that point. Could still be an option.
