First off, you are doing a good job. What you are doing is demonstrating that you are an independent person. Doing your own thing is good.
Maybe next time, toss in a twist: Go do something but don't tell your wife what you are going to do (and don't volunteer what you did when you return). I'm not saying lie, but stop thinking as if you have to be accountable to her for everything you do. If she asks, by all means tell her the truth. But, just for kicks, say, "I'm going out tomorrow night." And leave it at that. As my DB coach says, create mystery about you. Make her wonder about you.
Regarding Retro weekend, not sure if you have seen her posts, but there is somebody who regularly posts here who attended Retro. She is a huge advocate, and she is willing to share her experience with anybody. She goes by the name Sara and is often found in the Playhouse or Sandbox threads. If you pop in there, and ask her to take a look at your thread, I'm sure she will.
The bottom line here is that you are making progress. Stay focused. You are doing well.
One more thing... you wrote: If anyone knows what I'm feeling let me know. Um... we all know what you are feeling. Most of us here live it every day.
