Thanks Brit. I will leave out the setting your free part. However I am confused. I have been reading some eBooks and one said to do this" write her a letter and mail it to her, start with Hello, how are you doing? Then begin with "What would it take to get us back together"? It said that it is important for 2 reasons. First, I need this information so that I can begin to work on making those changes. Second, it establishes that I want the relationship to continue.
Do you really believe that your W thinks you don't want the M to continue? I'm sure you don't need to tell her that. She's in no state right now to listen to any of that stuff - As far as she's concerned, your M is over and she don't want to hear anything about it.
Originally Posted By: mwel
This is telling me to do everything that you guys say not to do..
Yep - We're telling you not to do it because many of us have done it, and paid the price.
Originally Posted By: mwel
Also, we split up the finances and she has her own accounts and I have opened mine. I am currently not set up for online banking yet so I left money in our joint acct so that I can pay rent and other bills.. Well I see that she has been spending money from that acct. I am going to ask her why she is doing this and let her know why I left money in that acct.
Don't you have a check book with your own account? Not sure what is precluding you from paying bills because you don't have online access. It's vital that you protect yourself financially, because your W otherwise may just yank the rug from under you.
