Sandi, your post from yesterday about being involved in church, has hit home with me. As I have said before, my W is heavily involved in church, and I am thinking that this is what is causing her to have such mood swings. I cant believe anyone that makes church important in their life will not have an attack of conscience when they do these things. I have to tell you about another website I have been on in the last week or so, and it talks about what causes the spouse to want to have an A or at the least an EA. Something is missing in their lives, such as affection, attention, sex, or a number of emotional things. These can be just a simple ILY, or you look good today, or sending flowers with a love note attached. When I think back to the last few years, I know that both of us had stopped doing those things, as we had such busy lives with 2 kids in high school. No excuse for any of this, and I am still kicking myself for not doing it. Still, the W did not do any of that for me, and I didnt go have an A. Last nite my W came home at her normal time, which was unusual b/c the D and boyfriend were not home. She would only come home early when she knew someone other than me would be there. Anyway, she had some pictures on the internet from her work which she showed me, and even had her outlook express email up at the time, which is the first time in probably 6 months that she allowed me to see something on the computer while she was there. Maybe this isn't anything, but i consider it a major improvement b/c before she would always have another screen up and when I would walk into the room, she would switch screens. I am hoping to God that the religion thing is weighing heavily on her and she is choosing to be with me and the family. I keep telling myself that if this D goes through, my family, and the kids will know what she has done. Sandi, thanks for your insight, as this is really helping me to understand what my W is going through. I thank all for their posts. I will let you know about my niece. My brother is going crazy right now with what is going on. I will continue to talk about that sitch as much as I can when my W is around, b/c I want her to know how devastating all this is.
