I am confused. I have been reading some eBooks and one said to do this" write her a letter and mail it to her, start with Hello, how are you doing? Then begin with "What would it take to get us back together"? It said that it is important for 2 reasons. First, I need this information so that I can begin to work on making those changes. Second, it establishes that I want the relationship to continue. This helps my W realize that the relationship is important to me and something that I value. It then says that often the spouse needs to hear that I treasure the relationship. Then later is states, Opt to change yourself to become the person you should be. Your spouse is clearly giving you the signal that things must change. This information was found under 2 stages. Stage 6: Your spouse has left, No legal proceedings, No communication and stage 8: Your spouse has left and has started legal proceedings, No communication.
This is telling me to do everything that you guys say not to do..
