after what everyone is saying I think that I am just going to tell her this...
I’m still working on getting to the place where you are right now. I’m going to need some time to digest all of this. I’ve though it over. You know this isn’t what I want, but I want you to be happy even if it is without me, so I’ll sign the papers. I’m sorry that things came to this and I wish it could have been different.
This part is good.
Originally Posted By: mwel
I am not going to say that I will always love you because I don’t know if I will after what has happened. I would still love to be your friend though, someone you can call if you need anything. Right now I love you and I know that I must set my love free. There is a saying, if you love something set it free, if it comes back then it was meant to be.
This part is fluff - I'd leave it out. Whenever someone says "I'm not going to say..." it sounds like you're trying to guilt someone into doing or thinking something. And as for the last part, she's probably just going to tell you that she isn't your's to set free.
I don't mean to sound harsh, but I've DONE a lot of this stuff before I found DB, and it burned me REALLY badly. You can certainly go for it and see what happens, but I don't think many people would recommend it.
Thanks Brit. I will leave out the setting your free part. However I am confused. I have been reading some eBooks and one said to do this" write her a letter and mail it to her, start with Hello, how are you doing? Then begin with "What would it take to get us back together"? It said that it is important for 2 reasons. First, I need this information so that I can begin to work on making those changes. Second, it establishes that I want the relationship to continue. This helps my W realize that the relationship is important to me and something that I value. It then says that often the spouse needs to hear that I treasure the relationship. Then later is states, Opt to change yourself to become the person you should be. Your spouse is clearly giving you the signal that things must change. This information was found under 2 stages. Stage 6: Your spouse has left, No legal proceedings, No communication and stage 8: Your spouse has left and has started legal proceedings, No communication.
This is telling me to do everything that you guys say not to do..
Also, we split up the finances and she has her own accounts and I have opened mine. I am currently not set up for online banking yet so I left money in our joint acct so that I can pay rent and other bills.. Well I see that she has been spending money from that acct. I am going to ask her why she is doing this and let her know why I left money in that acct.
