new here. Feel like dying

[mkultra]

Do not feel bad for asking him to leave. if it was a knee jerk reaction Ican see why you feel awful it may feel as if you are resposible. Even if ther emay be better ways of handlkinga heated situation, healthy marriages usually withstand those situations so perhaps there are other poblems and they are escalating. Do not feel bad. be proactive. Do not puruse him. Stay calm. Be postive. Act as if you expect him to come home so he feels safe to come home. You have been through this before . yes, ther can be more chances. You can always break the pattern with your husband. It is certainly possible and it happens all the time. Your H may be saying mean things as a reaction or he may hav ehad it pent up for a long time. Maybe it is him being proud or stubborn. Do not argue or explain your side. Just be positive and act as if you would be happy either way.

I know how you feel about regret but it is in th epast so think about tomorrow and how it may take time so be patient. You will be fine.