Now what? Wait it out?

[Tara_9]

Have you noticed progress with your W? In that spending quality time together is bringing you closer? I see that she has come around somewhat in that she is comfortable enough to start calling you. Has she continued her EA? That's the worst part of this--this other person hanging over my head. I feel that every time I see or speak to her she's comparing the two of us and I always come up short. I haven't actually spent much time with her...I dropped off some of her things a few days ago and we chatted for a half hour. Then the thing with the dog I found, but again, I only saw her for maybe an hour. Then tonight with the dogs, and it was her who asked. I'm afraid if I don't somehow manage to turn this around soon, she'll be so far gone with the OP that she won't be able to turn back. Also, I get the impression that because she has said so much to our friends about her having been unhappy for so long, that she doesn't want to lose face by seeming to want to spend time with me. The reason I say that is that last night she had mentioned coming to see the dogs at my parents' but couldn't because she brought the stray dog I found to its foster family. I told her she could come see them at our friend's house where I'd be after that. She declined, saying that it would "stir the pot and get people talking". I really don't care what people think. The only person I have to answer to is me, and my gut is telling me to work this out if it can be worked out. But she's spent so much time building a case against us to justify what she's doing that I'm afraid she'll let pride stand in the way of even giving us a chance...