Going back a few threads, I want to 'yell' at you about putting yourself down when it came to sex. He is your husband, you love him, you are attracted to him. HE is the one that is sad and pathetic, for 'using' you in that way, and pointing it out to you. I don't think he was using you *all* the way though, he missed something about it, or he wouldn't have been there. Stop that, miss morgan, right now. YOU are the strong one, you are the moral one.