He has not left home because he has nowhere to go. He can't go to her because she will not leave her H. His son lives with us and if he leaves here, the boy will have to go back to his mother. He is away 4 days a week and when he is home we spend time together working on a large project we have going on here, but sometimes when he is home, I am working. H knows that I don't want her here....ever. When he comes home, I am pleasant, have dinner ready and let him take the lead when working this project. I only know she is here because I sometimes see his emails and find out what they are planning. He still insists that they are just friends and that she is very important to him in that way. I really don't want to go to her H because he has a bad temper and will throw her out, which is not good for me because then maybe my H will think of leaving to live with her. As long as she and her H are together, my H will stay here. As he works out of town, I can only effectively work DB with him here. I think her H probably knows what's going on, but maybe he doesn't care. He may be having an A of his own. They are both kind of nasty people.
H seems a little foggy lately and is getting foggier. Sometimes he looks a little confused when he is home and I hug him or make his favorite meal. I sent him a card and he thanked me, which is some progress anyway. When he is home, he won't even phone OW, because he knows it's a good way to irritate me and he seems to want me non-bitchy when he is around. Sometimes it takes all I've got not to rant about her, but I never mention her name and he only does rarely. The problem is when he is at work and phones and emails her. At home he only uses the computer for 5 minutes at night to get her "good nite i love you" message.
I have been feeling a little happier lately. I have also been doing things for me, such as applying for a passport so I can run away for a weekend with a friend, so I am excited.
Me 48 H 38 M 9 y T 11 y Still living together Still insists they are just friends
