braveheart, thanks for the suggestion and you won't hurt my feelings, I appreciate all your guys feedback.

You're right, I've thought about this too but I realized that sometimes we all need that 2x4 hit on our heads to see things clearly. Maybe this event made her realize that the grass on the other side is no greener.

She still is not saying that I have to take her back. She says it would be nice and that's her wish but she would understand if I didn't. Really my options are to either tell her no which goes against everything I've done and wanted for almost two years or give this a try at the risk of her leaving again if she's not serious as well as other risks too now. It's a tough choice.

I guess my plan is to just go slow and see if she's making the right efforts. Actions speak louder than words. I've asked her to buy and read 'five love languages', 'light his fire' and an e-book I found about affairs and how to make it right for the partner that's suffering from what happened. So if I am her 1st priority as she says then she'd read the books, she'll appreciate me and over time with our actions towards each other we'll heal and reconcile. So far she's saying the right things lets see if she acts on them too.

Again, I feel we need to find some professional help.

Me: 32|W: 34|D: 3yo
1st bomb: Feb 2006 (left one day, came back a week later)
2nd bomb: Aug 2006 (moved out, ILYBNILWY)
3rd bomb: Apr 2007 (filed for divorce)
4th bomb: <her finger on the launch button>