My gut says he's afraid of making the wrong choice, or trying to date (anyone) too soon. I suspect he's afraid he's not 100% 'fixed' yet, and is afraid of ruining another workable R.
What's to be 'fixed' ?
seems to me like he just has everything he wanted, and why change?
If he isnt out screwing someone else now, he might actually be attempting to do the right thing, by pressuring himself to choose you by virtue of wanting sex with you.
personally, though, i think that's silly. If he knows enough to pressure himself in your direction... he should know enough to just choose you in the first place.
So I think he's just playing dumb mind games with himself and you; instead he should straighten up and do the right thing.
most people dont stop being attracted to people other than [their intended] before they are married. he should know that already.
so if he's waiting for himself to not want to "hang out" with those other women any more... that will probably never happen, and things will never change in a positive direction from where they are
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D. Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M. 3 wonderful sons caught in the middle
