our un-relationship

[Dom R]

Oh, Dom, just realized what you meant. lol

No, he's afraid of dating other people because he would lose the sex, intimacy, etc. with me. He's hesitant to date me because he'd have to pull back/redefine his friendships with a couple of his FF's. [...]

Is that more clear??

Ohhhh..
yeah, much more clear.

more clear that he's just being selfish

I'd be worried about the no sex thing. seems like he'd do that if he started having sex with someone else. "meaningless sex"(without "intimacy" perhaps), but sex just the same

[possible way to approach this at an oblique angle:
roll over in bed one night, and say "dammit, I'm horney! how about helping me out?"
If he objects.. either he'll be honest about why he is really objecting, or you might get a better feel on the issue.
]