Stop at the word "happened." The rest is pursuing.
There are two schools of thought. One says slow the divorce process down and give her a chance to see the 180s and GALs. The other says, don't slow it down, because slowing it down is pursuing, and she will never see that you have moved on if you keep throwing up roadblocks. Plus, what I said about fear above.
I say do both (which is what I did). If you truly are "not there yet," tell her. Acknowledge that she is ready, but you need time to get through this. Then detach. And GAL. And see what happens.
Okay so I deleted the rest after happened. I am not going to show her that I am afraid, I'm going to be strong. I know that after I say this she is going to file. You said above to slow the divorce process down, how? PLus, with her always gone and never see's me how can she see me do 180's and GAL? If she still goes to Denver I know that she will see one of my 180's, I have been working out and I am starting to get ripped abs. I had them when we first meet and she loved them. I am not there but if I tell what I have above she will think I am and will want me to sign the papers ASAP. I am starting to detach and GAL but since I am really not ready or even close to a place where I can sign the papers then what should I do? If I tell her what I have above she will think I am ready.
