Stop at the word "happened." The rest is pursuing.
There are two schools of thought. One says slow the divorce process down and give her a chance to see the 180s and GALs. The other says, don't slow it down, because slowing it down is pursuing, and she will never see that you have moved on if you keep throwing up roadblocks. Plus, what I said about fear above.
I say do both (which is what I did). If you truly are "not there yet," tell her. Acknowledge that she is ready, but you need time to get through this. Then detach. And GAL. And see what happens.
