I think that if you want to drive your wife away, then by all means, give her that speech.
If she wants to file, you cannot stop her. You can either confirm her decision as the right one, or you can make her wonder if she is doing the right thing. I say do not go through all that crap with her.
Dude, I get that you are angry and hurt. We all are. You need to move past all of this pain and fear. Women sense fear, and you are wearing it on your forehead. Fear not the future without her. When she sees this, you will be a more attractive alternative.
Mark How do I make her wonder if this is the right decision? Just agree with everything she says and does?
so what if i tell her this???
"I’m still working on getting to the place where you are right now. I’m going to need some time to digest all of this. I’ve though it over. You know this isn’t what I want, but I want you to be happy even if it is without me, so I’ll sign the papers. I’m sorry that things came to this and I wish it could have been different. I am not going to say that I will always love you because I don’t know if I will after what has happened. I would still love to be your friend though, someone you can call if you need anything. Right now I love you and I know that I must set my love free. There is a saying, if you love something set it free, if it comes back then it was meant to be."
