MWEL - what is your intention with what you have written? Is this something you are planning on giving to your wife or are you simply venting/unloading here?
I think it's important to get the thoughts out, as you've done here, but sending something like this to your wife is NOT a good idea.
I know you're dying to tell her these things but I'm afraid it will look like pursuit and desperation and, in reality, I believe it is. I'm sorry to say that but I've seen it myself. This is going to push her away even more.
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The WAS is an alien to all of us. There is no way we can truly understand them, especially if they are going to be providing the information we seek. They are confused, they rewrite history, they don't want to be reminded of when things were going well.
It sucks, it really does, but you need to step back a bit.
mcc Yes these are my thoughts that I have and I was planning on telling my W this when she comes back home on the 10th. I told her that I needed to talk to her and that I have some things to get off of my chest. Her friend has told her to just come and talk to me. Since she is really only coming over to talk to me and if I do not have anything to say then what do I do? In my other thread they are telling me just to say something like this "I’m still working on getting to the place where you are right now. I’m going to need some time to digest all of this. I’ve though it over. You know this isn’t what I want, but I want you to be happy even if it is without me, so I’ll sign the papers. I’m sorry that things came to this and I wish it could have been different. I am not going to say that I will always love you because I don’t know if I will after what has happened. I would still love to be your friend though, someone you can call if you need anything. Right now I love you and I know that I must set my love free." Just telling me to give in to her wishes of the divorce.
