Why do you have to let her know that you're aware she has been lying to you from the beginning and that you forgave her? Do you envision that she'll say, "oh mwel, now I see how great you are. Let's stay together!" No good will come of having that discussion. It is for your benefit alone. If you are done trying to save your marriage, then have the talk. Otherwise, leave it alone.
Isnt that why we are here, to save your marriage? I dont know what I am envisioning her to say. She is hurt and I want her to know that she hurt me also. It is for my own benefit, in DBers it says if I desire to ask about the affair then I should ask. Im going to comment that I would like to save the marriage in our talk but at the end I will let her know that I will not stand in the way of her happiness...
