This is getting so crazy! You have got to quit fussing about this "talk". I understand that this is all new, but believe me, this isn't a situation where you have one shot to make a good first impression. It's not a job interview.
How about this...she comes by and you say this......
"I had a whole bunch I wanted to say, but let's scrap that. Because I care for you, I want you to be happy. It's not what I want, but if divorcing me is what it takes for you to be happy, then I won't stand in the way. I would like to be friends if possible. How about we wrap up any of the details about possessions and stuff and then grab some dinner or something."
How's that? Not fulfilling for you? Either will trying to learn the details of affairs.
Btw, do what you want in terms of your rings. I'd suggest wearing them.
Me
ME, I was actually going to put something like that at the end of my letter. I say letter because I will get sometimes when Im nervous I forget things so that is why I am wriring them down. I will continue wearing my ring. Im not trying to learn about the affair, I just want to let her know that she has been lieing to me from the beginning and that I always knew but I love her so much that I forgave her. I was planning on asking her if she would like to go to dinner.
You have got to quit fussing about this "talk". I understand that this is all new, but believe me, this isn't a situation where you have one shot to make a good first impression. It's not a job interview. 