This is getting so crazy! You have got to quit fussing about this "talk". I understand that this is all new, but believe me, this isn't a situation where you have one shot to make a good first impression. It's not a job interview.
How about this...she comes by and you say this......
"I had a whole bunch I wanted to say, but let's scrap that. Because I care for you, I want you to be happy. It's not what I want, but if divorcing me is what it takes for you to be happy, then I won't stand in the way. I would like to be friends if possible. How about we wrap up any of the details about possessions and stuff and then grab some dinner or something."
How's that? Not fulfilling for you? Either will trying to learn the details of affairs.
Btw, do what you want in terms of your rings. I'd suggest wearing them.
Me
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
You have got to quit fussing about this "talk". I understand that this is all new, but believe me, this isn't a situation where you have one shot to make a good first impression. It's not a job interview. 