If she shows up because you said you have something to talk about, then it's your opportunity to be a friend - No pressure, no pursuing and certainly no R talk. Maybe she'll open up and want to talk about something specific, or maybe she won't.
I don't believe she'll show up on your doorstep with "What did you want to talk about?".
I know the only reason she will show up is because I said that I needed to talk to her. I want to be her friend, I want there to be no pressure or pursuing but my speech has the relationship in it. Maybe she will open up but I already know that she will not admit to cheating. She doesn't want to get screwed when she files the papers. Her best friend told me this..and yes I know that she was cheated before and after the wedding. Well I know that since she is there, she will get the stuff she has there. But for the most part I am thinking that is how she is going to act "What did you want to talk about?" or "What do you have to say?" Would you want to see what I have wrote so far??
Originally Posted By: BritInOH
Do you want to take it off? Don't do something in response to your W. If it feels right to take it off, take it off, otherwise leave it on. My W hasn't worn her ring in three months, but I've not had mine off at all.
Depending upon your W's state of mind, she may be doing things that she feels are right for her, but in the back of her mind she wants the security of you to fall back on - Yes, it sounds like a long shot, but it's not uncommon. Taking your ring off just for 'effect' may not be a positive step. That said, lots of W's turn around and want to try when their H decides it's time to go, but your W hasn't been doing this long enough to be in that position...
No I do not want to take off my ring. I was going to do it in response to her doing it but I wasnt 100% on taking it off. Now I will keep it on. I believe that she is in that mind frame of she is doing things that feels are right for her. I am also pretty sure that she does not want my security to fall back on.
