I'm so sorry for what you are going through right now limbo. Your words of frustration just made my heart ache. I know it's hard to see the small positive things when you so much want it to be different, happy, and something you don't have to put so much energy into. It's exhausting and draining.

But I have realized now that we will always have to put energy into this because we had stopped doing that before. I really do see positives in what your husband is doing, saying he wants to try and work this out and you both are talking in a calm, non-aggressive manner, which you hadn't done before. Keep taking it in very small steps and find the positive in each interaction.

Hang in there sweetie,


Me:49 H:47
S: 16
T:27 M:25
My EA: 2001
His PA: 10/2007, 6/2013
Separated, but H still in house

Find your Shambala: a place of peace and happiness.