Thanks for responding. Yes I do agree with you that I should only say 'the change' thing once or twice, because at some point it becomes just words again. I think I have mentioned it maybe 3 or 4 times now, but it is also the first thing that comes to my mind when he says 'you used to do this' or 'you used to be this way'. So I need to think of something else to say, perhaps just agree with him? 'Yes I was that way'. I just cannot believe how much hurt he is still harboring and I wish he would talk!!! Aaaaaaargh. I know, I know...PATIENCE.
Yes, I expect the distance again, after this and after we go to my S's counseling, so double whammy.
Me:49 H:47 S: 16 T:27 M:25 My EA: 2001 His PA: 10/2007, 6/2013 Separated, but H still in house
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