He is coming home on the 10th. She will not want to spend time with me. She knows that I said that I really need to talk to her and tell her some things. If she comes over and I say that I have nothing to talk about, she will leave. I want to be her friend and I would love to spend time with her, but she wont right now.
If she shows up because you said you have something to talk about, then it's your opportunity to be a friend - No pressure, no pursuing and certainly no R talk. Maybe she'll open up and want to talk about something specific, or maybe she won't.
I don't believe she'll show up on your doorstep with "What did you want to talk about?".
Originally Posted By: mwel
ONe more thing...I asked her friend if she still wears her rings and she said that she really didnt look but she may have taken them off....what should I do? Take mine off?
Do you want to take it off? Don't do something in response to your W. If it feels right to take it off, take it off, otherwise leave it on. My W hasn't worn her ring in three months, but I've not had mine off at all.
Depending upon your W's state of mind, she may be doing things that she feels are right for her, but in the back of her mind she wants the security of you to fall back on - Yes, it sounds like a long shot, but it's not uncommon. Taking your ring off just for 'effect' may not be a positive step. That said, lots of W's turn around and want to try when their H decides it's time to go, but your W hasn't been doing this long enough to be in that position...
