SR remember one thing, love is a choice that each of us makes every day. All during this process you made the choice to continue to love your wife and stand for your marriage. She unfortunately was lost in a fog and made a bad choice. Don't let all that you have stood for be ruined by a one time bad choice. We all have made bad choices and one thing that love truly represents is the ability to forgive for a bad choice.
As Gandhi said "The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong." Another quote to remember from Mother Theresa, "If we really want to love, we must learn how to forgive."
Good luck my friend!
If we really want to love, we must learn how to forgive. - Mother Theresa