But H did offer to take me out for dinner any time I wanted to go, Why do you think I spooked him, do you mean he got 'cold feet' and thought of it as pressure?
Because you asked him...and happened to catch him at a time he was feeling unsure/scared/whatever. He either needs to settle down before you bring it up again, or you need to accept his invitation, at the time he asks.
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But he calls me to tell me about things he has done with regard to the business, sometimes there is no need to call, it's not that important.
Sounds like he was just calling to chat. That's a good thing...you don't call 'just because' if you don't like the person.
Usually, the avoiding calls thing is to generate more interest...and therefore more contact... I'd say, since he's responding less when you answer less, maybe it's time to try answering more?
Oh...and you did fine while you were out with your friends. That's what is supposed to happen. You weren't missing his calls on purpose, or to be retaliatory...you were just out having some fun.
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What do they struggle with?
Depends on the person, the situation. I know xh struggles with the loneliness (and knows he created it), the guilt. He worries that the baby has his parents in two different places. What people will think. How he'll pay the bills. Will he be alone, will he get his head on straight. That our R fell apart, and he did it... A lot of his thoughts seem to echo mine, just from the guilt angle.
