I agree with Brit. There isn't anything that you can "say". Sad, isn't it?
mwel, you WILL be okay. What you are worried about is what to do, how to act, or what to say. Because there isn't anything in particular that will bring her back, unless she wants to, how about being yourself. Be the you that you would like to be. Practice on your friends and family by being a genuine great guy. It's okay to be you. You wouldn't want her to come back if she can't accept you, would you?
mwel, there are so many newcomers that I probably mix you all up. You don't have kids, is that right? And her career keeps you apart most the time? What would be different if you got her back? You'd still see each other very infrequently and be a set-up for a bad marriage. She probably needs more to feel love than talking on the phone. She probably needs other things to feel loved; things a long distance relationship can't provide. I know we are here to bust divorce, but consider how you will even keep it busted if you were back together.
She has already agreed to talk to me. what do I say now? sorry something came up? Then she will say "figures, when there is something important to discuss he has something that is more important to him that he has to do". she is like that..plus her best Friend keeps telling her just to talk to me..I would want her to come back for any reason. I want her to see the new me, the person I have been working on for a while. You are correct, no kids and for now her career keeps her away. I say for now because she is trying to become a GM of her own hotel. What would be different, you ask..I would be more willing to drive to see her no matter how long. Maybe she needs someone there all of the time, but she hasnt had anyone there for a while. She has been by herself, accept the affair but she traveled to have that. I would show her more love other than just talking on the phone. I just want her to know that there are other methods to solve problems than divorce.
