I wondered if those who were able to repair their marriages would look at my attitude as a mistake. I'm not hostile to him, but its definitely something I need to do right now. maybe a year or two or 3 from now, things can be different, who knows, but for me right now there is no other answer, at least none that I can see.
M, it is not so much a matter of right/wrong, mistake or not. First and foremost, you need to take care of yourself. You're not going to be any good to anyone, including your kids, if you let this stuff get to you. Now, that being said, there are definitely different ways to approach that. Being vindictive and spiteful probably won't gain you any brownie points, but if you're polite yet distant it helps you. To detach, to move on, to just feel better.
Me: 41 H: 42 Married: 13Y, together 24 Kids: S11, S9, D6 Bomb: 7/11/06, now piecing
