thanks, care. it was really sweet to see s3 finally see there was nothing to be afraid of...I think he had it pretty worked up in his mind that witches/monsters/etc were all real. nice to see, and guessing next year he'll be ready for the costume.
I also appreciate you sharing your own experience. I wondered if those who were able to repair their marriages would look at my attitude as a mistake. I'm not hostile to him, but its definitely something I need to do right now. maybe a year or two or 3 from now, things can be different, who knows, but for me right now there is no other answer, at least none that I can see.
good point, dom. h is NOT a better man for all of this. I'm not saying this because I am the woman scorned. I'm saying this because when I look at him, I just see a man who is making a lot of really lousy life choices. if he were as good a man as he used to be (or better), outside of the wife/children thing, that might be one thing. but he's not...he's on a downward spiral it seems. and definitely not one who is interested in being a better man. its like, while he was married to me, he was that better man, and now he's throwing off the yoke and going back to some old ways (keep in mind, he was 23 when we met, so those old ways were very much stupid youth stuff).
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"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
