There and Back #12

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Hey there M.
So happy to hear the S3 got over his initial fright of Halloween and was able to go trick-or-treating. Definitely something to put in the baby book!

Regarding H wanted to hang with you after, I have something to add to that. At one point when my H was still distant, in his own world, he would occassionally come out of his shell and talk a bit. Then he'd crawl back in. I once asked about this and his response was something along the lines of 'I still think of you as a friend, the mother of my kids. Why can't we just hang out and talk?'
He so didn't get that I didn't want to be just the mother of his kids and that just talking when there was this huge issue between us seemed trite. What was the point? Yeah, I know. Friends first. But that wasn't working for me.
I had to step back to protect how I felt. I wasn't too concerned about his feelings at the time. I needed to feel better about me.

You do the same. Whatever works for you and helps you heal and process things on your own time line. Not his.