All hope is lost/help

[cat03]

(she thinks i should just forget about H, move on, get divorced and not consider him at all....)
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have you let your mom know that you dont' appreciate her negative feedback and that you would really welcome her support? that you will fight for this M with or without her help? sorry she is being a pain about it.

she wants it at her house because its easier with the current stich, i'm invited but not my H.
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how can that be easier? it is WORSE! don't know what happened last year, but for your and the kids sake I agree w/u and tell her you'll do xmas at home and that she could come for dessert or something.
Don't tell your H how your schedule is open the whole day, just ask him if he'd like dinner with the kids or lunch on xmas day, don't ask him to stay over, it is too soon.

As for the anniversary I got my H a card that wasn't all mushy nor said the word love, not even sure it was a true anniversary, but it was very cute, something about him marrying me knowing it wouldnt' b a walk on the park (I was a handful sometimes, he'd spoil me) Inside, I posted a list of all the things I never thanked him that he did for me that meant a lot, ei: how he went to marry me in my country even if his whole family couldnt' come, I dont' think I ever told him how much that meant, about how he'd try to keep me warm when I was shivering due to the meds they gave me when I was giving birth, things like that.

I try to keep busy working out, got online and made some friends, finding old friends and talking to them, as far as KLA not much to do there, just decided I'd hug him if I felt like it, I wasn't doing so before, he doesn't mind so I'll do it, just trying to be on my best behaviour and not nag about little household things that normally would set me off.