H has left have I Done the right thing

[Evie]

So talking on the phone is good, if he can't talk face to face? That works for me too, I can do that. Thanks for that advice (a baby step?)I just need to think of other things to talk about other than work and kids. H complained that that was what we only ever talked about.

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If he'd wanted to go, he would have told you. I think you spooked him a bit.

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But H did offer to take me out for dinner any time I wanted to go, Why do you think I spooked him, do you mean he got 'cold feet' and thought of it as pressure?


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So, wait, was he calling and you weren't responding?
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Yes I was avoiding his calls. But he calls me to tell me about things he has done with regard to the business, sometimes there is no need to call, it's not that important. I was trying to be 'unavailable' to him as suggested on these boards. But it's a mind game i guess, and I guess he can see right through it. However, HE HAS moved out, why keep phoning me?? Should I answer his every call? I went out last Saturday night with a friend and I missed his calls on my mobile - twice, eventually he called home, the girls told him i was out with a friend, I don't want to create distane just mystery and show him i'm not sitting around moping.

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I know they struggle. xh is kind enough to tell me a lot of it.

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What do they struggle with?

I'm really happy for you and your current stich, whatever makes us happy..