All hope is lost/help

[Evie]

Hi Cat,

Feeling much better today, thankyou for your clarity. Your right I do over analayse, that has always been a huge problem with me and H used to say I over analaysed, but's it's hard not to.

Your right about treating him as I would a friend, when you put it like that it seems an easier way to move forward and deal with the current stich.

After I posted this H called last night, so we chatted a for a bit, mainly arrangements for the boys for the next few days. He called me again this morning with regards to the business. I guess its better than him not calling, right?

I had my mom over for dinner last night. She is pressurising me to make a decision about xmas. (she thinks i should just forget about H, move on, get divorced and not consider him at all....) I always have xmas at mine but this year she wants it at her house because its easier with the current stich, i'm invited but not my H. I'm in a very awkward situation. Last year mom and brother came to my house and to cut a long and boring story short it was not a nice time unfortunately.

I'm planning to say to H that i'm at home all day on my own with the kids and he is more than welcome to come over xmas eve and do the ritual of preparing the boys stockings, stay over and stay for dinner or to just come over on xmas day? or to just do whatever he is confortable with? Then telling my mom that it's a very different stich this year and i hope she'll understand but I want to be at home this year and i'll see them on boxing day.

I also have H's b'day in a week and our A on 12/12. I just plan to buy a nuetral card from me, but cards and pressie's from the boys. As for my A thats a harder call altogther. What did you do?

Civil is good, what do you do for your PMA & KLA?

XD